No Toliet Paper? No Baby Wipes? Need Diapers? Here are Some Cheap, Ecofriendly Solutions!

This COVID-19 virus has a lot of people emptying shelves of necessities. The major things missing in many stores is toliet paper, diapers, and baby wipes! I have some solutions, that require quite a bit of water; and other than that are more ecofriendly than the above disposable items.

I say these things require a lot of water since most of them need to be washed or require a lot of water to work effectively. They are ecofriendly since they can be reused. I have used these items, or planned to use them, since October of 2019. I will include links so you can purchase these items for yourself and your family.

First we will start with toliet paper replacements. My grandma lived through the great Depression and she said they used old magazines and washable rags to wipe during those times without toliet paper. Most other first world countries in Europe have bidets on every toliet. Some solutions to running out of toliet paper are: wash rags (I will share my reusable wipe recipe next, with things you most likely have in your house, or find your own online) or buying a bidet for $50-$100+. You can also buy a reusable travel bidet for $10-$15. A bidet now is about the same as a package of toliet paper on Amazon. There is no better time to buy reusable items if you are able.

So baby wipes are necessary as well. Adults can use these as well. I store my wash rags in a huggies wipe container, and a simple wide Tupperware container will work too! How I make my wipes is by measuring 2 cups of boiled water, 1 Tbs of olive oil, 4 drops of tea tree oil, and 1.5 Tbs of baby shampoo (I prefer a lavendar scent). I mix this up and pour it over about 40 washcloths. I pour about 1/4 cup extra of boiled water over the top to get the excess oil and shampoo down to the rest of the rags. After I use the wipes I place them in a wet bag.

Finally, getting reusable diapers has been a godsend for me. Especially during this time of viral outbreak and quarantine. My preferred type of diaper is the pocket diaper. I will link some of my favorites along with some of my favorite inserts. I have about 10 diapers and 25 inserts and do laundry every 2 days.

I hope this helped relieve some toliet paper panic! Amazon is prioritizing household necessities right now, and I’m sure all of the above items are included. I have been prepared for something like this, and I hope you can be now as well! Relax, stay home if you can, distance yourself if not, and we can get through this together. If you click on my links and purchase something, it will help me tremendously. Thank you and stay well.


The Intuitive’s Experience of Intuition

Quote by Albert Einstein

Intuitive: readily learned or understood


That is the only definition from the Merriam-Webster dictionary that does not include the word ‘Intuition’ in its definition. That definition makes sense with Albert Einstein’s quote in the above image. Yet, it leaves out the experience of what being intuitive or what intuition actually is.

In the description of Marriam-Webster’s definition of “intuitive”, they first relate it to “intuitive interface” of smartphones and other technology. Since it is simple and easy to use. The dictionary then relates it to the noun intuition in terms of a “sixth sense”, ESP, and the intuitive sub-stage of cognitive development.

The dictionary makes these processes all seem different, and it feels like it is written to seem illogical to have these experiences. I am here to tell you that it is completely fine to experience these things. Also, if you don’t experience these things, that is alright too; but denying another’s intuition because it seems illogical or is calling out something within yourself you are attempting to hide is harmful. Both to yourself and the intuitive.

For example, I had an ex that cheated on me. I physically felt a cord to my heart being cut when he cheated on me once. I knew he cheated on me, even though we were separated by half of the United States. I even asked him about it in person when he got back, and he denied it.

This was damaging on a physical, mental, and relational level for me. I had no facts, except for the feeling I had physically experienced regarding it. I became very sick afterwards, and carried a lot of internal confusion. A few months later, I could not let my experience go, and he finally confessed to cheating on me.

After that experience, I vowed to listen to my intuition and to my body. Since the mind is connected to the body, obviously both the rational and intuitive mind are connected to it. Like my molecular biology teacher, Dr. Rad, always said, “Structure=Function!”. The structure allows for the function to occur, which is true on the micro- and macro-scale of existence. Basically, since the mind and body are connected, obviously they function together.

The “Functioning” of the body and mind together occurs on all unconscious, subconscious and conscious levels. The unconscious parts are slightly more obvious to us since that is what we study in anatomy classes, and we would not be alive or breathing if not for these unconscious processes. The “Functioning” of these conscious levels are what help get us through school, our daily lives, how we utilize our bodies, communication with others, and form our beliefs. The subconscious parts are a little fuzzier.

The subconscious levels of functioning are usually defined by our dreams, and other things that are outside our full awareness. For years, many psychologists and “New Age” believers are attempting to make the subconscious more conscious and aware. This is what I think of when people say someone is aware of themselves or “awakened”. They have made strides in being aware of things that were not in their full awareness. Is this that “inner work” people keep raving about?

Anyways, enough with that rant. How does this relate to intuition and the intuitive mind? That is a great question I do not have an exact answer to. The intuitive mind seems to act as a mediator of the subconscious mind to the conscious mind to allow intuitions, and other information to be processed more easily by the mind and by the body. It is the bridge that connects the different levels of the mind together, yes even the unconscious parts.

It seems like intuition within our intuitive mind occurs mostly at a subconscious level, since it is always active; but doesn’t always require our full attention. It is able to cross over the bridge to influence our consciousness or our unconscious mind. It can cause a sense of “fight-or-flight” that influences both unconscious and conscious mechanisms. Intuition is a part of human experience, and it is stronger in some individuals than others.

Intuition through the intuitive mind is an important part of obtaining a “flow state”, and can be used to aid in decision-making. Yes it is a “gut-feeling”, but it can occur anywhere in your body. I have read some women experience it within their vaginas or through their hearts. Some people it occurs more as a mental feeling, and some it is more physical feeling. Intuition can be communicated in a multitude of ways, at any time, during any situation.

Experiencing intuition as an intuitive is like a feeling of “just knowing”. Whether that “knowing” refers to something that occurred, or a problem that is attempting to be solved. It just comes to you suddenly and it all makes sense, even if the path that got you to the “knowing” is nonlinear.

Do you just understand concepts easily like an intuitive? Do you experience strong intuition? Both? Let me know your thoughts!


My First Blog Post: Becoming Grounded

Being grounded in air sounds contradictory…

The best present you can give yourself is being present

— FractalTz

This is the first post on my new blog. I’m just getting this blog going, so stay tuned for more. Subscribe below to get notified when I post new updates.

Aiming to be more present is vital. Part of being present is being grounded. Grounded in your body, your mind and your spirit. There is no time except for the now. Some say that everything is happening now.

I find it especially easy to be grounded in the body, like most people do. It feels like reality, I can see the physical things with my eyes. Feeling my skin, muscles, organs and other bodily functions is simple. I can taste or touch things to get grounded. Another way to get grounded physically is to do progressive muscle relaxation.

Or simply just sit your butt on the ground!

The mind is a physical organ composed of emotions and thoughts. Since it is a physical organ in the body, it can influence it. Hence the term my mother always said, “Stress kills“. Or why psychosomatic symptoms occur in mental dis-ease(s).

Getting mentally grounded can be more difficult. It’s a much longer process. I feel it actually integrates part of the spirit since it can include getting to know personal values, morals and beliefs. It also requires a processing of life events

It requires a certain amount of focus, concentration and determination. It is basically taking time to get to know yourself, your thought patterns, and what you want for yourself. Then maintaining that process to allow choices to be made in line with our spirit’s path.

If mental grounding is so difficult, spirit grounding just seems almost imaginary. Good thing we are limitless and can imagine anything, right?

For example, imagine love. Or will power.

Lots of different feelings, emotions and memories can come to mind. It keeps expanding. It can be both given and received. It is something that is cultivated within.

They are not physical things, but are felt. It is more than a mental conceptualization. These are things that are imprinted into your spirit and grow with you throughout your life. These are the limitless aspects of being human.

Any other ways you can think of to be grounded in the body, mind or spirit? Let me know! Thanks for joining me in getting grounded in this blog!

*Update* Here’s an awesome article I found on grounding: https://www.shamanscave.com/self-healing/what-is-grounding

Grounding is an action! It can be felt, but difficult to conceptualize! Go ahead and consume those roots!

Do you even lift siSTAR? Strengthening the wombyn within you by strengthening your vagina

Have you heard of Kegel exercises? If you have, great! They are important exercises for vaginal health. They are important to have healthy periods, have great orgasms, and to recover from vaginal childbirth.

Did you know that Kegels were originally designed to prevent urinary incontinence in women?

The inventor of Kegel exercises was a gynecologist named Dr. Allen Kegel. Many gynecologists recommend his work, and yet many do not mention the most important part of the exercises: something needs to be INSIDE the vagina to work the muscles.

If you research Dr. Kegel’s work, you will find that something needs to be inserted into the vagina so the muscles can contract around it. Be it a finger, a yoni egg, or many other things!

Kim Anami, a vaginal weightlifter, teaches women to be able to “lift” fruit with their vagina. She says that every woman can shoot ping pong balls out of their crotches. She equates doing kegel’s without something in them like going to the gym and flapping your arms around in the wind instead of lifting weights.

I have been using Kim’s advice through her podcasts and YouTube videos to learn more about my sexual health and wellbeing. I have 3 fifteenth sizes of yoni eggs and have been practicing with them during my postpartum care.

I honestly wish I would’ve started them sooner because I feel I would’ve had a more orgasmic delivery process. Yes, Kim also teaches that natural birth can be pleasurable and orgasmic.

Back to Kegel exercises, Kim researched that Asain women who used Jade Yoni Eggs were able to recover faster from child birth. The muscles are able to work even more if there is some resistance,  of gravity to them. Many jade eggs have drilled holes through one side of them. This is so a silk string can be tied through them and you can lift stones, fruit, water bottles or so much more with your vagina!

I have personally healed postpartum incontinence with this method. I also feel more grounded while doing this practice. While I’m not quite at the ping pong stage yet, or even the fruit stage. I have noticeable results.
If you want to heal from these issues and be more emplwered through your womanhood you can purchase a yoni egg here

This site also has a lot of other great tools for yoni health and healing I will talk about in the future.

Elven Hooded Halter Top: Free Crochet Pattern

I began crocheting clothing a little less than a year ago. I had a hooded-tribal-style halter top that I loved to wear, yet wanted a different type of hood on it. One that was pointed.

I thought I would have to buy a sewing machine and learn how to sew to get the results I wanted in a top! Thankfully I just needed a little bit of creative thinking and to be inspired by some other wonderful crochet designer’s patterns in order to combine their patterns together to make my dream design!

I used the patterns linked below for the halter top and the hood. You can find the complete pattern at the end of this blog, I just want to give the original designers a shout out because they create beautiful patterns and works! So check out their blogs here:

I really liked the halter top, and didn’t like how the ties dug into my neck. So I wanted a different way to hold it up. An Elven-style hood was my go-to choice, and any hood can work great with this pattern! Since the two are worked separately you can work them independently of each other. Then I recommend connecting them together with the border first and then using stitch makers to determine exactly where you need it.

Type of Yarn is any weight category 4. I prefer a cotton yarn, or any other natural fiber over acrylic. Though the orange top is LionBrand Heartland yarn in yosemite and I used about 5-7 skeins of yarn to make this look in a size medium top.

The top is much longer than the pattern calls for, and you can just keep adding rows to determine exactly what length you want.

The Grey top is made with Lily sugar and creme yarn, which was made with a much shorter hood. I needed about 6-7 skeins of this yarn for a medium tunic-length top.

I used the types of hooks called for in the pattern. I used a 6.0mm (J) hook for the top. The hood can be made with a 6.5mm tunisian crochet hook or worked with regular sc with a 4.0mm hook.

One major difference between the orange and grey top is that I used Linked double crochet (ldc) and linked triple crochet (ltr) for the top, which made it less see-through.

Here is the pattern I used, you can adjust the lengths of the top and the hood as needed/desired for length. The hood and the top are worked separately. The border is then worked around the finished hood and top and then sewn together to get the most accurate placing.

SIZES: Small, Medium, Large, and XL
with a Short Hood or a Long Hood (any hood can be attached to this pattern)

Halter Top:
To Fit Bust – 32-34(36-38, 40-42, 44-46)

To Fit Waist – 24-26(28-30, 32-34, 36-38)

Finished Width – 15(16, 17. 18)

Finished Torso Length – 16(16, 16, 16)

Finished Bust Length – 14(14, 16, 16)

This top is worked from the bottom up in one piece
There are four sizes to this pattern: Small, Medium, Large, and XL
Follow the numbers in parentheses for the larger sizes: S(M,L,XL)
The ch 2 at the beginning of a round does NOT count as a stitch
The ch 4 at the beginning of a row DOES count as a tr
Turning at the end of each round on the Torso ensures that your join seam stays nice and straight – this join seam will run down the side of your top
dc st can be replaced with linked double crochet (ldc) or linked triple crochet (ltr) to make top less see-through.

Round 1: Fdc 78(84,90,96). Join with a slst to first fdc. Turn.

Round 2: Ch 2 and (l)dc in the first st. (L)Dc in every st around. Join with a slst to first dc. Turn.

Rounds 3-25: Repeat round 2 twenty-three more times. (I added ~12 rows to get to the length pictured)

Note: if you want more length you can add as many rounds as you want here CONTINUE TO BUST WITHOUT FASTENING OFF.

Row 1: Ch 4. Tr (or ltr) in the next 38(41,44,47) sts. Turn (leaving the remaining sts unworked).

Row 2: Ch 4 and (ltr)/tr in the same st. (Ltr)/Tr in each st up to the last st. 2 tr in the last st. Turn.

Rows 3-14(14,16,16): Repeat row 2 twelve(twelve,fourteen,fourteen) more times. Note: Each row will increase by 2 sts.

The hood is worked separately. It can be lengthened or shortened by removing the extra rows between the increases, this is the pattern for the long hood (pictured above in orange). The pattern below is for the Tunisian version of this pattern, which is done with a 6.5mm Tunisian crochet hook. A similar effect can be make with a 4.0mm (G) regular crochet hook and using sc.

Ch 3.
Row 1: Draw up a loop from the back of each of the next 2 chain stitches. RP. – 3 sts
Row 2: TKS inc in the first space. TKS in the next st. TKS inc in the next space. TKS in the final st. RP. – 5 sts
Rows 3-4: TKS in ea st across. RP. – 5 sts
Row 5: TKS inc in the first space. TKS in the next 3 sts. TKS inc in the next sp. TKS in the final st. RP. – 7 sts
Rows 6-7: TKS in ea st across. RP. – 7 sts
Row 8: TKS inc in the first sp. TKS in the next 5 sts. TKS inc in the next sp. TKS in the final st. RP. – 9 sts.
Rows 9-10: TKS in ea st across. RP. – 9 sts
Row 11: TKS inc in the first sp. TKS in the next 7 sts. TKS inc in the next sp. TKS in the final st. RP. – 11 sts
Row 12-13: TKS in ea st across. RP. – 11 sts
Row 14: TKS inc in the first sp. TKS in the next 9 sts. TKS inc in the next sp. TKS in the final st. RP. – 13 sts
Rows 15-16: TKS in ea st across. RP. – 13 sts
Row 17: TKS inc in the first sp. TKS in the next 11 sts. TKS inc in the next sp. TKS in the final st. RP. – 15 sts
Rows 18-19: TKS in ea st across. RP. – 15 sts
Row 20: TKS inc in the first sp. TKS in the next 13 sts. TKS inc in the next sp. TKS in the final st. RP. – 17 sts
Row 21-22: TKS in ea st across. RP. – 17 sts
Row 23: TKS inc in the first sp. TKS in the next 15 sts. TKS inc in the next sp. TKS in the final st. RP. – 19 sts
Rows 24-25: TKS in ea st across. RP. – 19 sts
Row 26: TKS inc in the first sp. TKS in the next 17 sts. TKS inc in the next sp. TKS in the final st. RP. – 21 sts
Rows 27-28: TKS in ea st across. RP. – 21 sts
Row 29: TKS inc in the first sp. TKS in the next 19 sts. TKS inc in the next sp. TKS in the final st. RP. – 23 sts
Rows 30-31: TKS in ea st across. RP. – 23 sts
Row 32: TKS inc in the first sp. TKS in the next 21 sts. TKS inc in the next sp. TKS in the final st. RP. – 25 sts
Rows 33-34: TKS in ea st across. RP. – 25 sts
Row 35: TKS inc in the first sp. TKS in the next 23 sts. TKS inc in the next sp. TKS in the final st. RP. – 27 sts
Rows 36-37: TKS in ea st across. RP. – 27 sts
Row 38: TKS inc in the first sp. TKS in the next 25 sts. TKS inc in the next sp. TKS in the final st. RP. – 29 sts
Rows 39-40: TKS in ea st across. RP. – 29 sts
Row 41: TKS inc in the first sp. TKS in the next 27 sts. TKS inc in the next sp. TKS in the final st. RP. – 31 sts
Rows 42-43: TKS in ea st across. RP. – 31 sts
Row 44: TKS inc in the first sp. TKS in the next 29 sts. TKS inc in the next sp. TKS in the final st. RP. – 33 sts
Row 45-46: TKS in ea st across. RP. – 33 sts
Row 47: TKS inc in the first sp. TKS in the next 31 sts. TKS inc in the next sp. TKS in the final st. RP. – 35 sts.
Rows 48-49: TKS in ea st across. RP. – 35 sts
Row 50: TKS inc in the first sp. TKS in the next 33 sts. TKS inc in the next sp. TKS in the final st. RP. – 37 sts.
Rows 51-52: TKS in ea st across. RP. – 37 sts
Row 53: TKS inc in the first sp. TKS in the next 35 sts. TKS inc in the next sp. TKS in the final st. RP. – 39 sts
Rows 54-55: TKS in ea st across. RP. – 39 sts
Row 56: TKS inc in the first sp. TKS in the next 37 sts. TKS inc in the next sp. TKS in the final st. RP. – 41 sts
Rows 57-58: TKS in ea st across. RP. – 41 sts
Row 59: TKS inc in the first sp. TKS in the next 39 sts. TKS inc in the next sp. TKS in the final st. RP. – 43 sts
Rows 60-61: TKS in ea st across. RP. – 43 sts
Row 62: TKS inc in the first sp. TKS in the next 41 sts. TKS inc in the next sp. TKS in the final st. RP. – 45 sts
Rows 63-64: TKS in ea st across. RP. – 45 sts
Row 65: TKS inc in the first sp. TKS in the next 43 sts. TKS inc in the next sp. TKS in the final st. RP. – 47 sts
Rows 66-67: TKS in ea st across. RP. – 47 sts
Row 68: TKS inc in the first sp. TKS in the next 45 sts. TKS inc in the next sp. TKS in the final st. RP. – 49 sts
Rows 69-70: TKS in ea st across. RP. – 49 sts
Row 71: TKS inc in the first sp. TKS in the next 47 sts. TKS inc in the next sp. TKS in the final st. RP. – 51 sts
Rows 72-73: TKS in ea st across. RP. – 51 sts
Row 74: TKS inc in the first sp. TKS in the next 49 sts. TKS inc in the next sp. TKS in the final st. RP. – 53 sts
Rows 75-76: TKS in ea st across. RP. – 53 sts.
Row 77: TKS inc in the first sp. TKS in ea of the next 12 sts. (TKS inc in the next sp. TKS in ea of the next 13 sts) 3 times. TKS inc in the next sp. TKS in the final st. RP. – 58 sts
Rows 78-79: TKS in ea st across. RP. – 58 sts
Row 80: TKS inc in the next sp. TKS in ea of the next 14 sts. (TKS inc in the next sp. TKS in ea of the next 14 sts) 3 times. TKS inc in the next sp. TKS in the final st. RP. – 63 sts.
Rows 81-82: TKS in ea st across. RP. – 63 sts
Row 83: TKS inc in the next sp. (TKS in ea of the next 15 sts. TKS inc in the next sp) 4 times. TKS in ea of the next 2 sts. RP. – 68 sts
Rows 84-85: TKS in ea st across. RP. – 68 sts
Row 86: TKS in the next st. (TKS inc in the next sp. TKS in ea of the next 16 sts) 4 times. TKS inc in the next sp. TKS in ea of the next 2 sts. RP. – 73 sts
Rows 87-88: TKS in ea st across. RP. – 73 sts
Row 89: TKS in the next st. (TKS inc in the next sp. TKS in ea of the next 17 sts) 4 times. TKS inc in the next sp. TKS in the next 3 sts. RP. – 78 sts.
Rows 90-91: TKS in ea st across. RP. – 78 sts
Row 92: TKS in ea of the next 2 sts. (TKS inc in the next sp. TKS in ea of the next 18 sts) 4 times. TKS inc in the next sp. TKS in the next 3 sts. RP. – 83 sts
Rows 93-94: TKS in ea st across. RP. – 83 sts
Row 95: TKS in ea of the next 2 sts. (TKS inc in the next sp. TKS in ea of the next 19 sts) 4 times. TKS inc in the next sp. TKS in ea of the next 4 sts. RP. – 88 sts
Rows 96-97: TKS in ea st across. RP. – 88 sts
Row 98: TKS in ea of the next 3 sts. (TKS inc in the next sp. TKS in ea of the next 20 sts) 4 times. TKS inc in the next sp. TKS in ea of the next 4 sts. RP. – 93 sts
Rows 99-100: TKS in ea st across. RP. – 93 sts
Row 101: TKS in ea of the next 3 sts. (TKS inc in the next sp. TKS in ea of the next 21 sts) 4 times. TKS inc in the next sp. TKS in ea of the next 5 sts. RP. – 98 sts
Rows 102-103: TKS in ea st across. RP. – 98 sts
Rows 104-121: TKS in ea st across. RP. – 98 sts

Cut yarn and tie off.

Seaming the Hood

Fold the large triangle down the center length so that the right sides of the fabric are facing each other and the wrong sides are out. With a tapestry needle and a length of yarn, make a whip stitch seam starting at the point of the hood until there are ~25-30 rows remaining.

Connecting the Hood and Top


Start with the border to connect the top.

Attach yarn on edge of hood or top, ch-2, then work a in-the-round border of at least 4 rounds of ldc slst in top of beg of each ch-2 at beginning of round.
Turn to add an extra round of ldc over the hood only for a larger hood effect. Add as much of a border as you want here! I wouldn’t go more than 8 rounds here though, I have only done a total of 5 rows (including the extra round on the hood).
Ch-4, dc, sk a chain, ch-1 all the way around slst in 3rd chain of beg ch-4.
Then ch-1, sc in ea sc and dc all the way around, slst in beg ch-1. Tie off and weave in ends.

Sewing the pieces together

I definitely recommend using stitch markers to place your hood and try it on prior to sewing if possible! This pattern is untested, and has only been worn by me. Since the border holds the hood and the top together, this should make this process easier. This is how it worked well for me:

I left ~10 stitches of the hood unworked and unsewen to be able to pull it over my head. I sewed the hood on starting between the 5th and 6th rows of tr crochets on the top. I sewed 2-3 st on the hood in one tr on the top using a mattress stitch going forward and backwards, so the knot to finish off is in the back of the hood. Then finish off.

Now you have an Elven Hooded Halter Top!

Someone on ravelry is combining this with a dragon hood, and it inspired me to make a dragon version too with some sage green yarn! Check out my ravelry when the project is finished!


Update as of 6/26/20: I have an ad-free PDF version available in my Ravelry shop

Rethinking the Healthcare system

There’s a lot of stuff going on in the haircare industry right now.

How do you feel when you go to the doctor? Or visit with another healthcare professional?

Do you feel empowered from your visit? Do you learn something from them?

Do they ask what you’ve done about your presenting issues? Do they explain what tests they are doing, what reasons they have for taking them? Do they have the knowledge to explain how the tests will be conducted?

Do they share their diagnostic thought-process with you? Do you even question how they arrived to their diagnosis? What if the medication or treatment you take doesn’t work, then do you question it?

After working in the Healthcare field for some time, and being a patient in it, I’ve answered “no” to most of these questions. I did not feel empowered when I went to the doctor. I didn’t know what questions to ask.

It wasn’t until I began learning about the body, diseases and other scientific tests that I began asking more questions and gaining a sense of empowerment. I began advocating for my health in order to use the system to my advantage instead of the system going on autopilot.

Start informing yourself as much as possible. Doctors and Healthcare professionals are people too and are not almighty knowledgeable beings. You can’t expect them to know everything, particularly everything going on in your world. Don’t be afraid or hesitate to ask questions, that’s why they are there.

Want to plant trees with your internet searches?

From Escoia Blog

Have no idea what YOU can do to help the environment? Climate change? The Australian Bush fires?

Here’s something easy you can use in your everyday life. Switch your internet search engine to Escosia. For every few searches, they plant trees!

Plus every AD click plants more trees!!!

And today, January 23rd, all proceeds go to help rebuild the Australian Bush.

I have the search engine installed in my phone. There’s even an android widget for searches. Plus you can use it as a mobile browser!

If you prefer searching on a computer there is a plugin so you can use it in your favorite browser! Just set it as your preferred search engine to start planting!

Start today to help reforest the Australian Bush!

Blaming is Irresponsible Behavior

Oringial Image from Instagram

This revelation came to me after a recent quarrel. I found the urge to blame myself for “causing” someone to react how they did. Only because I chose to react in a particular way.

Then I thought to myself,  “children place blame”. Since they are still learning about responsibility.

While I was taking responsibility for my own actions, I was also trying to take responsibility for another’s actions on top of my own. I was viewing the cause of their actions as reaction to my actions. Which, ultimately, is their choice and responsibility.

Somewhere along the line, maybe it felt responsible for me to take the blame for someone else’s actions. This thought pattern felt comfortable and it was easy to fall back into. Maybe I had learned unhealthy responsibility, or took on too much. Either way is plausible.

Explaining it can only do so much though. I mean think about the word itself: B-Lame. It’s just lame to do it to yourself or another person.

Instead, I recommend that you accept what happened. Tell yourself, “it’s okay” because it’s in the past by now. Then, instead of ruminating in the feelings, try to take responsibility by making better personal choices.

Take it as a learning experience and move forward. Because THAT IS responsible behavior. Telling yourself, I forgive and love myself enough to do better next time.

Even if you feel you “messed up”. Repeat the process. “It’s okay, what can I do about it now?” Then keep making those choices until you get it right!

How to you release blame from your life? Any other ways you take responsibility in your own life? Let me know below. Feel free to share this if it resonates with you or feel it would help someone else!

Presently Being: You are more valuable than what you can accomplish

This is more for me, but maybe some of you need to hear this too. I can only assume that’s why you’re here. I recently discovered my self-worth, attitude and mood is stemming from a place of the idea of “how much can I get done today”.

I had this realization when my partner would ask how my day would went.

If I responded good, I would then immediately list everything I had accomplished today. That made me feel like I put value into my life and the world around me. Which feels pretty good.

If I responded okay or worse, I would then immediately list everything I was able to do and everything I wanted to get done still. I would then vent out my frustrations over this. I felt incomplete and some residual stress about a day like this.

Only by being present and actually listening to the words come out of my mouth was I able to realize I was relying on my mood and attitude based on what I could accomplish. What “value” I brought that day. I had difficulty just sitting on the couch watching TV or simply sitting in silence without my mind racing about something I could be getting done.

Cultivating self worth and self love based solely on the limitless love within our beings is so important to grow beyond this “busybody” culture we have. Seeing our own personal value everyday has to come from that spirit I talked about in my first post. However you make sense of it, whether it’s God, your higher Self, or another divine being; viewing yourself from that overwhelmingly, loving perspective is a great way to be presently valuing yourself.

If you have other ways of how to grow your self-love, self- worth or self- confidence, I encourage you to comment below!

How to make a Crochet Chain: My experiences

Example of Crochet Double Chain

The best, and neatest way, in my opinion, to make a fast chain for a pendant is to use the Foundation Double Crochet Stitch (fdc). I linked the page I used as a reference in the image below. In the pictures, a 2.75mm hook was used, if you want your stitches to be bigger/smaller adjust your hook accordingly.

Moogly Blog fdc Video Tutorial

Personally, I would not use larger than a 4.00mm hook for jewelry purposes. Just make it as long as you’d like! You can also begin the chain with a clasp end and then slip stitch the other end on when it is the length you desire.

Although, it was tough getting the yarn or string to not stretch out or for the finishing part to stay in place. I found regular yarn to be too stretchy and unversatile. I didn’t try embroidery floss, but this may work as well since it has a similar, more rope-like foundation to it than yarn does. Yarn was too “fuzzy” for this type of project (but works well for the clasped chains).

Thankfully I had this interesting string from some macrame projects from long ago. It is composed of 2 rope-like strings with a metallic string intertwined. It was a very taught string.

I knotted it around the pendant hole a couple times, then started my fdc with the starting string and the working yarn. I made it just long enough to fit over my head comfortably without a clasp. The next part was the most difficult: finishing.

I slip stitched the chain to the space between the pendant and the first chain 3 of the fdc. Then I did a double crochet (dc) in the first fdc space. Then I made a slip stitch to finish it off.

Instead of weaving in the ends, I crocheted the ends down towards the pendant hole, and knotted it again a couple times. Finally weaving in the ends and burning off the excess ends.

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